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Introduction
You already know how important it is to live in the present moment.
Philosophers, sages, poets, and mystics have been making the point for
centuries. "Seize the day," wrote Horace. "You can never step in the
same river twice," proclaimed Heracleitus. "Be here now," exhorted Ram
Dass, inspiring the entire 60s generation in the process.
But what does living in the moment really look like? Feel like? And,
most important, how does one actually do it?
The good news is that it's simple. The bad news is that it's not always
easy. But there's more good newsthe ability to stay in the Now can be
easily learned, and strengthened over time like a muscle. Even the
briefest moments of presence can quickly lead to more presence.
Eventually, living in the moment becomes a natural, effortless way of
life.
As the saying goes, "There's no time like the present." So let's begin.
Take a breath. Pay attention to the way the air feels as it fills your
lungs and expands your belly. Now relax, and let the next breath come on
its own. Do you feel just a bit more here? The simple act of breathing
attentively can always lead you back to the Now.
Look around the location in which you're reading. Keep looking without
any goal in mind until your eyes land upon something you hadn't noticed
before. Once you've found it, go see if it has a smell. If it does, let
the smell linger in your nose. If it doesn't, follow your nose to the
closest thing that has a smell.
Tapping into your senses is another quick way to become more fully
present. Sight, smell, hearing, touch, and taste work just as well. In
addition to the external five senses, there is also your ability to
sense within, to experience the way your body internally registers
pleasure, pain, hunger, fullness, etc. For example, pay attention to
what happens when you smile. Notice how your interior sensations shift
as a result. Next, close your mouth and hum a note. Follow the vibration
of the sound waves as they spread through organs and bones. Let them
wake you up.
While awareness of your breath and senses is instrumental in true
presence, there's much more to it than that. Unfortunately, we spend a
large part of our lives blocking out what we don't want to acknowledge
and accept. Feelings, difficult situations, troubling aspects of the
world at largeall these can cause us to shut down, to turn away from
what's actually happening. Whenever this occurs, we lose our connection
to the present moment. In the process, we also lose our vitality, our
innate joy, and our power to heal and grow.
Most of the time, our disconnection from the present moment is
unconscious. We're gone and don't know it, or we know we're gone but
don't know why. That's where this book comes in. These hundred ways to
celebrate the present moment are designed to help you find out when,
where, and why you might have shut down, and then to bring you back to
life as swiftly and enjoyably as possible.
The best way to approach presence is with a playful spirit. It's about
freedom, after all. So rather than putting How Now on your to-do list,
just pick it up from time to time and turn to a random page. Read the
page slowly, like a poem, letting the words and practices sink in. Then
give yourself some pressure-free time to follow the instructions. Don't
try or push. Instead let the suggested activity slow you down and soften
you up until a greater sense of presence seems to permeate your being
without any strain whatsoever.
No matter in what order you approach the hundred ways, and no matter how
long you take to complete them, their effect will be cumulative. Each of
the ways will reinforce the others. At a level deeper than everyday
awareness, your being will begin to blossom. You will feel more peace,
love, and contentment than you previously thought possible.
This is the gift that the present moment bestows. Always. And it's yours
right now.
Celebration # 2 Inner Smile
Feeling joyful is not necessary for presence, but it's one of the most
powerful ways to induce it. Joy creates an almost instantaneous sense of
expansionan inner smile that's like a warm bath. Some call this warm
bath "flow" or "spirit." No matter the name, experiencing it naturally
connects us to ourselves and to everyone and everything around us.
The Practice:
Think about someone or something that you love. This could be a child, a
place in nature, or a favorite memory. Whatever you choose, make sure
that just reflecting upon it creates an automatic inner smile. Then
surrender to that inner smile. Let it light you up. Feel it spread
through your body and even beyond it, uniting you joyously with your
surroundings.
Celebration #12 Taste Test
The more attention you pay to your body, the more present you
automatically become. Physical presence is the gateway to a whole new
level of wellness. This is clearest, perhaps, when it comes to food.
Most of us select what we eat via a combination of desires and
"shoulds." Rarely do we tap into our bodies' instant feedback mechanism
to identify the right food at the right moment.
The Practice:
For just one day, put your first bite of any food under your tongue and
hold it there for twenty seconds before swallowing. Notice any and all
sensations that occur in your body. If you feel even just a tad worse
than you did before, your body is saying, "No, thank you."
Celebration # 17 Precious People
No one ever went to the grave wishing to have loved less. In the end,
it's the people in our lives who matter most. Yet often, out of fear or
pain, we don't let them know that. Taking time to do so allows what's
truest in our hearts to be acknowledged and celebrated in the Now.
The Practice:
Who are the most important people in your life? Reflect on this question
in a relaxed manner, even if the answers are surprising or seem some
inappropriate. Rather than focusing on whom you "should" love, let your
heart have the last word.
Then, over the next few weeks, make it a point to communicate to those
people exactly how you feel. Do it in a way that's natural for you, and
that they can most easily hear and accept. Is the vulnerability that
comes with such revelation easy for you, or does it take a little
getting used to?
Celebration #20 Color Scan
If you find yourself out of sorts, lost in turmoil and therefore far
removed from the present moment, a quick and effective remedy is always
available. Engaging in a rapid-fire activity that requires both sensory
awareness and intense concentration can jolt you out of even the most
daunting distress.
The Practice:
For thirty seconds, take in all the sights around you. As quickly as
possible during that time, name every object you see along with its
colorsuch as "Blue wall, brown chair, yellow grapefruit, red placemat,
white door, green countertop, beige rug." When you're finished, take a
deep breath and notice whether you're more centered and present. If not,
move to a different room and repeat the practice.
Celebration # 32 Communicate with Pure Sound
Human beings like to make things unnecessarily complex. We constantly
load meanings and interpretations on top of the raw experience of the
Now. Nowhere does this happen more than in relationships. From time to
time, limiting our use of words with those we love can help break
through what's become stale, contentious, or stuck.
The Practice:
Choose a friend you trust and who has a playful sense of humor. Find a
convenient hour in which you both can agree to communicate with each
other using only one-syllable sounds. These sounds include "Mmmmm,"
"Ow!" "Grrrrr," and "Ahhhh." Avoid one- syllable words that have a
specific meaning different from what the actual sounds convey, including
for example, "Yes" or "No."
Let yourself have fun during this hour, noticing particularly how it
feels to communicate in such a primal way. Afterward, discuss the hour
with your partner and see how much was and wasn't understood. If you
enjoy this practice and want to take it to the next level, do it when
something emotional is happening between the two of you.
Celebration # 77 Skip Like a Five Year Old
Your body knows how to play even when you don't. Just a smidgen of
willingness is all it needs to let loose. Often, just a few moments of
uninhibited play jog loose what was stuck, bringing creativity, ease,
and joy where they previously seemed impossible.
The Practice:
Skipthat's all there is to it. Whether in public or private, make sure
you've got ample room in which to get up a good head of steam. Skip your
way through the embarrassment, the self-consciousness, and all your self
judgments about silliness and wasting time. Skip until you're out of
breath. Skip until you can't help but feel a bounding sense of glee.
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